by Yvonne Haase, LMHC
One of the many questions I receive from people I meet is, “Why should I seek therapy?” This question is often followed by a detailed account of how great things are going in their world or the copious amount of friends they have that they can turn to in difficult times. Of course, there is also the pervasive myth that we only need to seek therapy when there is a trauma in our life or if we are “crazy”. As much as I would like to think we have outgrown these myths, I hear them from so many people I encounter, that I know they are still embedded in so many belief systems.
So, if there is no immediate trauma in your life and you are not crazy, why should you seek therapy? For many reasons, but here are my top three!
1. We grow from the feedback we receive. Yes, we need friends in our lives, but our friends are often more interested in maintaining the friendship they have with us than being honest with how they see us. Family members also see us in a different light than the rest of the population. Unlike your friends, or perhaps your mother, your therapist is unbiased and not concerned that you may get upset or angry when they provide feedback to you. They see you for who you are, and a good therapist will call you out to help you grow.
2. You’re not crazy, but you may be stuck or bored with certain areas of your life. So many people seek counseling because they simply aren’t feeling great about where their life is going, or they feel that there needs to be some change but have no idea what that change is or where to start. You may also be experiencing a general lack of motivation or some anxiety about your future. Therapists support clients with a variety of concerns such as depression, marital strife, personal development, parenting, and career challenges. Your therapist will act as a guide, helping you to achieve your full potential.
3. You are not a fortune-teller. You have no idea what may lie ahead for you or your family. Establishing a baseline relationship with a therapist will make you more comfortable reaching out for support if there is either future trauma or transition in your life. The same is true for your children; giving them a place that “belongs” to them will allow them the ability to reach out for support when they have concerns that arise in their life.
Whatever the reason, therapy is a useful tool for the larger transitions in life as well as an instrument for personal growth.
Yvonne Haase, LMHC is a psychotherapist, therapeutic coach, certified DISC facilitator and communication specialist, qualified parenting coordinator, member of the Florida Adoption Council, and The American Psychological Association. She specializes in couples and families in transition. She provides Infertility Evaluations, Adoption Home Studies, and Couples Retreats. Haase is the Clinical Director of the International Holistic Center (IHC), a boutique center that fuses conventional and non-conventional therapies to address problems at the core, not just the symptoms. She is also the co-director of Suits, Stilettos and Lipstick, the women’s division of IHC. For information or to schedule an appointment, call 954-903-9426 or visit IHCHealthFusion.com. See ad page 35.